THE CAUSES OF ANGER AND ITS MEDICINE
From Imam Ghazali's book "Ihyaa Uloom ad Deen"
(The revival of religious teachings)
Know, O dear readers, that the medecine of a disease is to
remove the
root cause of that disease. Isa (Jesus Christ) -peace be upon
him-
was once asked: "What thing is difficult?" He said: "God's
wrath."
Prophet Yahya (John the Baptist) -peace be upon him- then
asked:
"What thing takes near the wrath of God?" He said:"Anger".
Yahya -
peace be upon him- asked him:"What thing grows and increases
anger?"
Isa -peace be upon him- said:"Pride, prestige, hope for honour
and
haughtiness"
The causes which cause anger to grow are self-conceit,
self-praise,
jests and ridicule, argument, treachery, too much greed for too
much
wealth and name and fame. If these evils are united in a
person, his
conduct becomes bad and he cannot escape anger.
So these things should be removed by their opposites.
Self-praise is
to be removed by modesty. Pride is to be removed by one's own
origin and birth, greed is to be removed by remaining satisfied
with necessary things, and miserliness by charity.
The prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)
said: "A strong man is not
he who defeats his adversary by wrestling, but a strong man is
he who
controls himself at the time of anger."
We are describing below the medecines of anger after one
gets angry.
The medecine is a mixture of knowledge and action. The medecine
based
on knowledge is of six kinds:
(1) The first medecine of knowledge is to
think over the rewards of
appeasing anger, that have come from the verses of the Quran
and the
sayings of the Prophet (pbuh). Your hope for getting rewards of
appeasing anger will restrain you from taking revenge.
(2) The second kind of medecine based on knowledge is to
fear the
punishment of God and to think that the punishment of God upon
me is
greater than my punishment upon him. If I take revenge upon
this man
for anger, God will take revenge upon me on the Judgement Day.
(3) The third kind of medecine of anger
based on knowledge is to take
precaution about punishment of enemity and revenge on himself.
You
feel joy in having your enemy in your presence in his sorrows,
You
yourself are not free from that danger. You will fear that your
enemy might take revenge against you in this world and in the
next.
(4) Another kind of medecine based on knowledge is to
think about the ugly face of the angry man, which is just like
that of the ferocious beast. He who appeases anger looks like a
sober and learned man.
(5) The fifth kind of medecine based on
knowledgeis to think that the devil will advise by saying: "
You will be weak if you do not get angry!" Do not listen to
him!
(6) The sixth reason is to think: " What reason have I
got to get angry? What Allah wishes has occured!"
Medecine based on action
When you get angry, say: I seek refuge in
God from the accursed evil
(A'oudhou billaahi min as shaytaan ir rajeem). The prophet (pbuh)
ordered us to say thus.
When Ayesha (RA) got angry, he dragged her by the nose
and said: " O
dear Ayesha, say: O God, you are the Lord of my prophet
Muhammad,
forgive my sins and remove the anger from my heart and save me
from
misguidance."
If anger does not go by this means, you will sit down if you
are
standing, lie down if you are sitting, and come near to earth,
as you
have been created of earth. Thus make yourself calm like the
earth.
The cause of wrath is heat and its opposite is to lie down on
the
ground and to make the body calm and cool.
The prophet (pbuh) said: Anger is a
burning coal. Don't you see your
eyebrows wide and eyes reddish? So when one of you feels angry,
let
him sit down if standing, and lie down if sitting.
If still anger does not stop, make ablution with cold
water or take a
bath, as fire cannot be extinguished without water.
The prophet (pbuh) said : " When one of
you gets angry, let him make
ablution with water as anger arises out of fire." In another
narration, he said:" Anger comes from the devil and the devil
is made of fire."
Hazrat Ali (RA) said:
The prophet did not get angry for any action of the world. When
any
true matter charmed him, nobody knew it and nobody got up to
take
revenge for his anger. HE GOT ANGRY ONLY FOR TRUTH.