In the name of Allah, the Gracious the Merciful

How does Islam view love marriage?

Dear Brothers and Sisters in Islam

It is a martial relationship recognized by society and official authorities? Or is it the sentimental relationship, which kindles a burning sensation of attraction to the beloved one and a desire to be
united together? Is it both or neither of them? Is it both or neither of them? Sometimes, the societies to denote what are otherwise known as cohabitation or living withsomeone from the opposite sex.

According to Islam, there is nothing called as love marriage.  There is a passion called love and a contractual relationship, which is marriage.  That relationship comes into existence when a man and a woman who agree to be married in the presence of the womans guardian and a minimum of two witness.
When these conditions are met, they bring about a relationship, which is legitimate, useful and presumed to be permanent.  No other relationship between a man and a woman who is not related to him is admissible from the Islamic point of view.

That relationship does not preclude that a passion may exist between the two partners.  Nor does the existence of that passion affect the martial relationship in any way.  That passion is judged on its own results.  If it tends to anything that Islam has forbidden, then it is forbidden.  It is limited to a mere feeling, which does not lead to any forbidden practical results, and then it is not sinful.  Having practical results, then it is not sinful.  Having said that, I must add that Islam does not encourage that such passion should exist before marriage or should be considered the basis of marriage. Islam encourages, on the other hand, the sort of love which comes after marriage as both man and wife face together what life may have in store for them.  That love is much more stable, deep and genuine.
Moreover, it gives each of the two partners the chance to encourage the other to follow Allahs commands and abide by His laws.

If love marriage is synonymous with cohabitation or living together, which means that a man and a woman share the same home and bedroom
without going through the formal requirements of marriage, then their relationship is strictly forbidden because it is synonymous with
fornication and adultery.

The Prophet gives us clear guidance on what to look for when we select our life partners.  He says: women may be sought in marriage for one of four considerations: her wealth, beauty, social status or her strong faith.  Choose the one with faith so that you may prosper.  This is then the proper procedure.  It is to make sure that the woman one selects to be the future mother of his children should be one of faith who will encourage him in obeying Allah commandments and keeping on the right path which earns him Allah pleasure and who will impart to; her children the meaning
of fearing Allah and being always conscious of Hs presence.  If you look at the four elements mentioned by the Prophet, you will find
that they combine all motives, which a man may have to get married.  He may give priority, when selecting his marriage partner, to wealth
or beauty.  Alternatively,he may seek a high position or distinguished social status.  If his aim is one of these, he will look for either a
pretty or a rich woman or he may seek to marry into a wealthy family or one of good name.  Which ever the factor he gives greater weight
to, we should not overlook the fact that they all relate to this world and its priorities and considerations.

The Prophet counsels us that none of these elements should be given priority.  It is the woman with strong faith, which should be preferred as a marriage partner.  Such a wife helps her husband attain the greatest prize of all: Paradise.  When we consider that, there is simply nothing to be compared with it.

The role of parents in selecting a life for their son is one of advice, not dictation.  Allah has not given them the right to force their son to marry any particular woman.  They may have reasons of
their own for seeking to unite their son in marriage with a particular woman.  They may have reasons of their own for seeking to unite their son to marry any particular woman.  They may have reasons of their own for seeking to unite their son in marriage with a particular woman, but they must remember that it is he who will live
with that woman, and it is his happiness that is at stake.  Hence, the choice must be his.  They should not try to impose their will on him.

Disobedience can only happen when the person who is being disobeyed enjoys the right to be obeyed by their children, their relationship
with their young children, when they have come of age, cannot continue on the basis of orders and strict obedience.  They continue to enjoy throughout the right to be honored and respected by their adult children, but they cannot always dictate to them in every aspect of their lives.

If a son wants to marry a girl whom he knows to be religious and of strong faith, and his parents oppose this marriage for reasons of their own, then he incurs no sin in going ahead with that marriage.  He is acting on the Prophet(saw) advice while they are opposing him for reasons of their own.  Their reasons cannot be as good as his, if he is choosing a woman of strong faith. Disobedience in this regard does not constitute undutifulness to parents.

May Allah Be Pleased With all muslims Ameen.
I love each and every muslim for the Pleasure of Allah !

"It is in rememberance of Allah that the heart finds peace"

Fee Aman Allah