How To Be A Righteous Wife
It is a duty upon all of us to fulfil
our roles to the best of our ability in order to attain
success in this life and for the Hereafter.
The following are just a few hadeeth of
the blessed Prophet Muhammad (peace and prayers be upon him),
highlighting the
position of women in their household,
and the duty upon them in serving their husbands with regard
to his rights upon her.
Inshallah, with the correct intention
in mind, fulfilment of this role and the striving to perfect
her character according to the
Quraan, Sunnnah, and the way of the
Pious Predecessors, it will only cause her to attain the
pleasure of her Creator, and bring
her closer to attaining Jannah.
The Messenger of Allah (peace and
blessings be upon him said):
"Every soul from the children of Adam
is a master; so the man is the master of his family, and the
woman is the mistress of her
household."
"If I were to order anyone to prostrate
to other than Allah, I would have ordered the woman to
prostrate to her husband. By
Him in whose Hand is the soul of
Muhammad, the woman will not fulfil the rights of her Lord
until she fulfils the rights of her
husband; and even if he were to request
her for himself (i.e. to have sexual intercourse with her)
whilst she was sitting upon a
camel's saddle, she should not refuse
him".
"It is not right that any human being
should prostrate to another being, and if it were right for a
human being to prostrate to
another human being I would have
ordered the woman to prostrate to her husband due to the
greatness of his right upon her.
By Him in whose Hand is my soul, if
from the crown of his head there was a wound pouring forth
pus, and she (the wife) came
and licked that, then she would (still)
not have fulfilled his right."
"If the woman knew the right of the
husband, she would not sit when his morning and evening meals
were presented until he
finished."
"If a woman prays her five daily
prayers, fasts her month (i.e. Ramadaan), guards her private
parts, and obeys her husband, it
will be said to her, 'Enter Paradise
through whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish."
"Indeed he (i.e. the husband) is your
Paradise and your Fire"
When asked "Which of the women is
best?" The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon
him) said, "The one who
gives him pleasure when he looks; obeys
him when he orders; and does not go against his wishes with
regard to herself or her
wealth by doing that which he
dislikes."
"Your women from the people of paradise
are the beloved and fertile, the one who is an asset to her
husband, who if her
husband becomes angry - comes and
places her hand in the hand of her husband and says, 'I will
not taste sleep until you are
pleased (with me).'"
"I was shown the Fire and found that
the majority of its inhabitants were women, due to
ingratitude." It was said: "Is it that
they disbeleive in Allaah ?" He said
"They are ungrateful to their husbands and deny the good they
do. If you were to treat
one of them well always, and she then
saw something (displeasing) from you she would say: 'I have
never seen any good from
you.'"
Text Source: "Sifaat Zawjatus Saalihah"
All the references to the Hadeeths
mentioned above are provided in the book from which this text
has been taken.
(The Righteous Wife) by Muhammad
Shooman, trans. by Aboo Talha Dawood ibn Ronald Burbank