Free
mixing between Men and Women is Haram
We find some Muslim youth adopt the Islamic culture
for the home and at the Mosque, however when they arrive at
College or University they adopt the Western culture. This is
evident by the action of free mixing between men and women. A
clear imitation of Western culture.
For some Colleges & Universities are not just being used for
gaining a
qualification, but also a ‘battlefield’ to find their so called
“one true
love”, thus we find some Muslim brothers trying to land his
bait to seduce “Miss Catherine Zeta Jones wannabe”. The plan
being first to chat them up about the commons ideas they hold,
then by discussing with them their personal issues and problems
and finally moving in with the kill. Likewise some sisters try
to seduce “Mr Salman Khan wannabe.”
In reality these people view the world through a Bollywood
spectacle, were boy meets girl, first comes love then comes
children, (then a fight in the whole family!). But in reality
first comes lust then comes the trouble. The trouble in most
cases is for the female. We find some Muslims on the campus
discussing how they are going to use a women for their own
pleasure, hence we may hear such people discussing the best way
to get a girl in bed is to get her drunk. Recently the Home
Office statistics put the probability of each female University
student to be raped in each academic year at 2%, that’s 1 in
50. Most will probably been raped whilst heavily under the
effect of alcohol.
What Bollywood movies don’t mention is the consequence of these
“lovers”. Hundreds of unwanted pregnancies up and down the
country, requiring the “morning after pill” or surgical
abortions. The spread of genital warts, HIV & AIDS have started
colonising the youth, as well as family divisions.
We find the Muslim Nation (Ummah) which the Creator of the man,
life and universe declares that the Muslims are the “Best
nation sent out to mankind, you enjoin in the Ma’ruf (good) and
forbid the Munkar (evil), and you believe in Allah”.
Instead some Muslim youth follow the western way of life so
much that they enjoin and call for the Munkar (evil) and forbid
the Ma’ruf (good). So on the campuses we see free mixing with
the opposite sex, and helping other Muslims to engage in haram
(illegal acts) by helping and setting up their Muslim
brothers/sisters with the opposite sex. By doing so they are
implicitly calling their Muslim brother or sister to forget
about Allah (swt) watching them, this is without doubt a call
for rejection of accountability to Allah (swt) which leads one
to Kufr.
Stuck between the western culture and Islamic culture?
It is evident that the Muslim youth are trapped between two
civilisations, the western civilisation, which views that Allah
(swt) should not be allowed to intermingle in life’s affairs
and that Allah (swt) should only be kept within an individual’s
heart or the place of worship. Thus as a result of this, man
has made his desires his own God by accepting secularism.
Colliding against this understanding is the Islamic
civilisation which views that Allah (swt) has sent a Shariah
(law) for all actions in life. Hence the Islamic Civilisation
views that only Allah (swt) has the right to legislate and not
man. Without doubt the clash between the secular capitalist
ideology and the Islamic ideology is one of the challenges that
every Muslim has to face.
Every individual is pushed to practise their freedom. You are
so free that if by 14 or 15 you’re still single it means that
there’s something wrong with you and if God forbid you’re still
a virgin by 16 then you’re probably celibate (don’t believe in
doing it). Due to these concepts being propagated on an
ideological level some Muslims imitate the kuffar and argue
‘what’s wrong with free mixing anyway - there’s no harm? Some
argue that both people in the relationship just want to have a
“bit of fun”, and that they’re not ready to commit, “so what’s
wrong with that”? The reality of this is people get seriously
hurt, abused and exploited, in most cases the women. All thanks
to freedom!
The western capitalist way of life has focused its main attack
on women more specifically the young Muslim woman. This has
created immense insecurity to many young women especially our
sisters who define success according to their ability to
attract men, so she dresses and looks like a super model in the
University and any other place that she goes. In other words
she is made an entertainment for men and men without any fear
of Allah (swt) see her as an entertainment.
O Muslims! Read the noble Qur’an where
Allah (swt) says, "Do you believe in a part of the Book and
reject the rest? Then what is the reward of those who do so
among you, except disgrace in the life of this world, and on
the Day of Judgment they shall be consigned to the most
grievous punishment."[TMQ Al-Baqarah: 85]
Abu Said Al-Khudri (ra) narrated that “The Prophet
(saw) said, ‘You shall follow the paths of those who were
before you handspan by handspan and yard by yard to the extent
that, if they enter a lizard’s hole, you will follow them.’ We
said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, the Jews and Christians?’ He said,
‘Who else?”
The Muslim woman should question their young sisters, why do
you disgrace your self by accepting the secular western
concepts? Is this what you have become? An entertainment for
men?
O Sisters!
Allah (swt) gave you honour through Islam, so much honour that
Allah (swt) orders men to view Women as precious pearls.
But remember you will only gain
this honour and protection by Islam and by following the Akham
(rules) of the Allah (swt). Just as the clam protects the pearl
you must establish the Fard of the khimar (hijab) and the
Jilbaab (long dress covering from shoulder to ankle) and reject
the clothing that reveals your shape, So understand that women
wearing trousers is just as haram as eating the pig, and reject
free mixing
with men. If you fail in these obligations then just as the
pearl is used by man as an object of desire when the clam is
removed, you shall also be used as an object of desire.
And be warned of the Punishment which the Prophet (saw)
mentioned in a hadith narrated by Abu Hurayra that the Prophet
(saw) said, "Women who are naked even
though they are wearing clothes, go astray and make others go
astray, and they will not enter Jannah and they will not find
its scent, although its scent is experienced from as far as the
distance travelled in five hundred years." [Muwatta Imam Malik]
Hence it is Haram for a Muslim Woman to make Tabarruj
(the dazzling display) and the Sufur (unveiling). Our sisters
should take the daughter of the Prophet (saw) Fatima Az-Zahra (raa)
as their role model to follow. Fatima Az-Zahra (raa) whom
before here death asked for her Janazah (funeral) to be done at
night so no non-mahrem (males not related by blood) eyes do not
fall on the shape of her burial shroud. Without doubt she (raa)
is of the five princesses leading the women in Jannah.
Areas where interaction between men
and women is allowed
Although Allah (swt) has given areas in life in which we
are allowed to come into contact with women, these areas should
be known if one is unaware of them. Muslims are allowed to
interact when there is a need in the following areas: while
studying, for working in an employment, buying and selling, and
in general times of help e.g. asking someone for directions or
helping an injured person. However, these should not be used an
excuse while having the intention of free mixing. The Islamic
view The close relationship between a man and women in Islam is
through marriage. Islam gave the method to approach marriage to
a person by offering their hand in marriage. This is best done
by a party giving a offer through a family member, for example
asking ones blood mother/sister to give a proposal to a sister
in the case of a brother or for a sister to offer her hand
through her father or blood brother to ask a Muslim brothers
hand in marriage.
Islam encourages marriage at a
young age, it is narrated from Abdullah (ra) that the
Prophet (saw) said, “O young people!
Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it will help
him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private
parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse) and whoso is
not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his
sexual power.” [Sahih al Bukhari]
Also Ali ibn Abi Talib (ra) reported the Messenger of Allah (saw) told
him that “There are three things which you must not postpone:
prayer when its time comes, a funeral and the marriage of an
unmarried woman when she finds one suited for her.” [Abu Dawud]
O Muslims fear Allah (swt) and give up free mixing, fear the
Malik of the Yawm ul Qiyamah that has prepared a fire whose
fuel is Insaan. Don’t call Shaytaan, for verily Shaytan is the
third companion during free mixing. Be warned that Allah (swt)
under the Khilafah has ordered punishment for free mixing,
punishment for fornication which is 100 lashes and for adultery
which Allah (swt) has ordered for both male and female
committed of adultery to stoned to death, and a severe
punishment from Allah in the Akhirah.
Take the reward of marriage and seek it through the Halal way
for there is much reward from Allah (swt) in it, Abu Hurayrah
reported that the Messenger of Allah said “There are three whom it is right for
Allah to help: the slave whose master has agreed to let him buy
his freedom when he wishes to pay the sum, the one who marries
desiring to live a chaste life, and the one who fights in the
path of Allah.” [Tirmidhi, Nasai and Ibn Majah]
The Key to abstaining from free mixing is Taqwa, meaning
to refrain from that which Allah (swt) has forbidden, and
remembering that Allah (swt) is watching you and to him you
will return when he stops your final breath. Allah (swt) in the
Qur'an says,
“Verily those who wish for acts of
indecency to be propagated among those who believe, they will
have a painful torment in this world and in the hereafter” [TMQ
Surah An-Nur: 19]