Allah Ta'ala says:
"Whosoever is in the heavens and on earth begs of Him.
Every day He has a matter to bring forth [such as giving
honour to some, disgrace to some, life to some, death to
some, etc.]!"
[Surah ar-Rahman; Ayah 29].
When there is a violent storm and the seas are turbulent,
the occupants of the boat call out, O Allah!
When the camel-driver and the caravan are lost in the
desert, they call out, O Allah!
When disaster and calamity occur, the afflicted call out, O
Allah!
When doors are shut before those who seek to enter through
them and barriers are placed before those who are in need -
they cry out, O Allah!
When all plans end in failure, all hope is lost, and the
path becomes constricted, O Allah is called out.
When the earth, vast and wide though it is, is straitened
for you, causing your soul to feel constricted, call out, O
Allah!
To Allah ascend all the goodly words, the sincere
supplication, the tears of the innocent, and the
invocations of the afflicted. Hands and eyes are extended
to Him in times of hardship and misfortune. The tongue
chants, cries out, and mentions His name. The heart finds
peace, the soul finds rest, the nerves are relaxed and the
intellect becomes sharp - these are all achieved when we
remember Allah, the Exalted.
Problems
The pleasures of life are short-lived, and more often than
not, they are followed by sorrow. Life means
responsibility, a journey wherein change is constant and
difficulties are many.
You will not find a father, a wife, or a friend who is free
from problems. Allah Ta'ala has willed for this world to be
filled with two opposites: good and evil, righteousness and
corruption, happiness and misery. Thus good, uprightness,
and happiness are for Paradise; evil, corruption, and
misery are for the Fire. The Prophet
said:
'This world is cursed along with all that is in it, except
for:
a) the remembrance of Allah and what follows it (i.e. good
deeds and whatever Allah loves), and
b) the scholar and the student.'
So live according to your reality without always
envisioning the ideal life, one that is free of worry and
toil. Accept life as it is and adapt accordingly to all
circumstances. You will not find in this world such things
as the flawless companion or the perfect situation, because
flawlessness and perfection are qualities that are foreign
to this life.
You will not find the perfect wife. A hadith reads:
'The believing man should not brush (away) the believing
woman if he hates a quality in her, there is another that
he is pleased with.'
It is necessary for us to make amends; to take what is easy
and leave what is difficult; and at certain times, to
overlook faults and mistakes.