Good
Manners
Excellence of Good Manners
Good Manners are the
distinctive characteristics of the of the religion of Islam.
In a nutshell, they are the reason behind the Prophet's (saw)
mission. Abu Hurayrah (saw) reported that Allah's Messenger
(Saw) said:
<I have only been sent (by
Allah) to complete the good manners.> (recorded by Ibn Sa'd,
al-Hakim, and others).
This was best demonstrated by
our Prophet (saw), whom Allah (swt) described as:
<<Indeed, you are of a great
moral character.>>(Quran:Al-Qalam 68:4).
The best of people after the
Prophet (saw) are those with best manners. 'Abdullah Bin 'Amr
(ra) reported that Allah's Messenger (saw) said:
<Indeed, among the best of you
are those with the best manners>(Recorded by al-Bukhari,
Muslim, and others).
And Abdullah Bin 'Umar (ra)
reported that Allah's Messenger (saw) said:
<The best among the believers
are those with best manners.>(Recorded by Ibn Majah and
al-Hakim).
A Muslim should display good
manners in all of his dealings. That would grant him a most
distinguised position among the other Muslims. 'Aishah (ra)
reported that Allah's Messenger (saw) said:
<Indeed, a believer attains (in
Jannah), because of his good manners, the level of one who
fasts and stands (for the night prayer).> (Recorded by Abu
Dawud and Ibn Hibban).
Good manners makes a
believer worthy of the love of the Messenger (saw) and the
closeness to him in Jannah. Jabir Bin 'Abdillah (ra)
reported that Allah's Messenger (saw) said:
<Indeed, among those of you
whom I love best, and who are closest to me in their recline
on the Day of Resurrection, are those with the best manners.>
(Recorded by at-Tirmidhi)
And Abu Hurayrah (ra) reported
that Allah's Messenger (saw) said:
<The things that mostly cause
the people to enter Jannah are: revering Allah and
good manners. And the things that mostly cause the people to
enter the Fire are: the mouth and the private parts>
(Recorded by at-Tirmidhi, Ahmad, and Ibn Majah.)
Good manners should not
be limited to dealing with distant people. Rather, they
should be best implemented with the close relatives. More
importantly, the two spouses should interact with each other
in the highest form of good character. Within the family,
one's true character is projected without disguise, because
one is then free from most of the artificiality and showoff
that is often exercised with other people.
Thus, exercising good
manners is a shared right and duty between the two spouses;
it is emphasized by their extreme closeness, and is necessary
for the well being of their relationship. Abu Hurayrah (ra)
reported that Allah's Messenger (saw) said:
<The Believers with the most
complete iman are those with most refined manners. And the
best among you are those who are best to their women.>
(Recorded by at-Tirmidhi, Ahmad, and Ibn Majah).
The Fragile Vessels, Rights and Obligations Between the
Spouses in Islaam. Written by, Muhammad al-Jibaly. Al-Kitaab
& as-Sunnah Publishing