Please give
clear instructions for a Muslim woman who wants to get married.
What happens and what should be done; before getting married,
when getting married, and after getting married.
MashaAllah, your concern and
query 'about marriage on Islam before engaging in customary
weddings is very encouraging. Often large customary weddings
have led to disastrous marriages.
When looking for a partner, first look or someone pious and
Allah-fearing, for if he fears Allah, he most certainly will
fear Allah in his rights to his wife. Beauty, wealth,
occupation is a bonus. However importance of compatibility is
essential. Another requirement of seeing the person is
essential. This establishes agreeability in the need of
developing love and affection. However courtship and
continuous meeting is not permissible before marriage.
The marriage ceremony must be as simple as possible which
will result with blessings and not burdans. A womn has a
right to dowry to her wish determined by his social and
financial situation. A public declaration with the Nikah
contracted in the presence of at least two withnesses. As far
as a women preparing herself for her husband, besides a
women's natural instinct to beautify herself for her partner,
this is a necessity from day one of marriage life long with
her partner. The first night is discovering each other with
patience every individual, depending on their own natural
instinct.
The walima meal is a great honour for the wife and an outward
expression of gratitude to Allah for His Ta'alas favours.(The
walima is dependant on affortability and must include the
poor)
Hence the Nikah is very simple, however if there are queries
related to any specific areas, the topic is quite vast
therefore the need to specify whether from the emotional,
social, needs or mas'alas is essential. You are most welcome
to query further.
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
Sister Farida
SOCIAL DEPT.
CHECKED AND APPROVED: Mufti Ebrahim Desai