RELATIONSHIP WITH
PARENTS
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01. Never be
disrespectful to parents. Do not say harsh words on them.
02. Even if parents are unjust, it is not lawful for children to
ill-treat
disobey or displease them.
03. Obey them In all lawful things. If they instruct you to do
anything
which is lawful in shariah, then politely and with respect
and apology
decline. Never refuse rudely nor argue with them.
04. When parents abuse, or scold or even beat their children,
they should
submit to such treatment with humility. Never should they
utter a word
of disrespect or complaint, nor should they display on their
faces any
indication of disgust or anger. Bear their treatment is
silence and
with patience. Make dua for them
05. Assist them in lawful ways even if they happened to be
non-Muslim.
06. Whenever you see them, greet them.
07. If you are living with them take their permission
before going
anywhere. Inform them of you whereabouts.
08. If you are engaged in nafil salaat and your parents call
you, break
your salaat and answer their call even if there is no
urgency or
importance in their call. if you are performing fardh salaat
and you
detect urgency in their call, then break even the fardh
salaat to
answer their call.
09. Do not call them by their names. Address them with a title
of respect
and honour.
10. After their death, make due-e-maghfirat for them. Pray
for their
forgiveness and within your means, practise virtuous deeds
with the
intention of the thawaab thereof being bestowed on them
by Allah
Ta'ala.
11. Pay the debts of your parents.
12. If they had made any lawful wasiyyat (bequest), fulfil
it is you
are by the means to do so.
13. Be kind, respectful and helpful to the friends of your
parents.
14. When entering the private room of parents, seek their
permission
before entering.
15. Always be cheerful in their presence.
16. Speak kindly and tenderly to them.
17. When speaking to your parents, keep your gaze low. Do not
stare then
in the face.
18. Do not raise your voice above the voices of your parents.
19. Be humble to your parents.
20. when accompanying parents walk, do not walk in front of them
or on the
right or left side. Walk - slightly behind them.
21. even in their absence speak highly and respectfully of them.
22. Do not give preference to the wife over them (this does not
apply to
the rights of the wife. Where parents instruct their son to
violate or
discard the obligatory rights of his wife, it will not be
permissible
to obey them in this case - Translators note).
23. Always endeavour to keep them happy.
24. Do not embark on a journey without their permission.
25. When they question you, do not inconvenience them by
delaying
your reply.
26. It is highly disrespectful to refrain from answering them.
27. If at any time you were disrespectful to your
parents, regret
your actions and hasten to obtain their pardon.
May Allah Ta'ala give us all the ability to
respect our parents (Ameen)