Guidelines for Sisters  1) Sister, please don't limit your parameters too much. Too often we are too caught up in the romantic fantasy, to notice that the reserved somewhat quiet Brother not making his presence boldly known is more suited to us, than the one we have conjured up in our mindes due the influence of romance novels, movies, magazines, etc. 2) Follow the sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh), who was open to the diversity of marriage. Look to the example of the wives of the Prophet (pbut). Note that even some of the wives of the Prophet (pbut) were jeolous women. Don't let the dunya cloud your judgement. 3) Don't make your profile shallow. Express who you are and what your likes and dislikes are. You are looking for your life partner, not a new shirt. Having your spouse someone who can be your best friend can be very rewarding. The more a Brother sees what your personality is like, the better chances you have of connecting with your soulmate. 4) Express in your profile what is important to you. Remember, you will want, insha Allah, a husband who has similar priorities. 5) Sisters, first and foremost have a wakil (wali); a guardian. If you do not have a male relative that is Muslim, ask your imam or sheikh to take the responsibility. Don't go it alone! There is a reason that Allah recommended we have Wakils, so don't figure you know better. Even you Sisters who have been married before, please consider a wakil. Select him carefully. If a Brother cuts corners on his Islam, he may not be suited as a wakil. He must take the task seriously, for permanently. He is who you will go to if you need to, so consider this seriously & pray about it. IF a Brother is unwilling to speak to your wakil, but wants to talk to you instead....pass him up. He is marginalizing a safeguard that Allah has prescribed for you. 6) HIJAB: Sisters, don't wear hijab for your husband, if he asks you to....wear it cause ALLAH commanded it. You do not worship your husband.....you should worship ALLAH. This should be addressed outside of the issue of marriage. If a man asks you to not wear it, if you marry him.....pass him by.....for he is wanting to change Islam to fit the dunya. 7) The issue of RACISM and tradition. Too often Muslims today fall prey to the subtle racism of complexion. Too often Muslims are concerned with whether or not a marriage candidate has a light complexion or dark complexion. This is Haram, for it is based on the issue of race. I have had people asked me personally to help them find a spouses, yet they wish to refuse individuals who are African-American because "the children will then have certain features". I have been told that "I have to understand" what it is like in "my country". Sorry, in this matter, I don't. I will not for any reason support any aspect of racism. I am very serious about this. Allah created all of us, and it is something the Muslims need to combat. This can only be done by standing up to the institutional racism that is now found, including that found in the Muslim world. Much of this was institutionalized by the Colonialists, but now it is perpetuated by the people themselves. 8)Classism is not a part of Islam, in any form. Though some families believe it is not "proper" to marry someone that is not a descendant of the Prophet (pbbh) if oneself is a descendant, this is NOT Islamic, in fact it goes against Islam. Do don't follow this classist/elitest practice. 9)Don't DATE! If a Brother attempts to make arrangements to visit you or travel with you anywhere alone , don't go! Don't spend lots of time with a Brother prior to marriage, for it is a threat to your deen and soul. Often new Muslims fall prey to actions that they don't realize are haram (forbidden). Seek out other sisters who are married to help you though this labaryth of events. Insha Allah, this clarifies a number of things. I pray my words are not too harsh.