From: eyedoc999 <eyedoc999@yahoo.com>
Sent: 23 March 2002 17:13
To: Truths@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [Truths] Any advice?

I am not Muslim, but a good friend of mine is. I just learned that this friend of mine just lost his grandson. It seems that his grandson died shortly after childbirth. I am wondering what is the proper way to express my condolences through his religion (Islam) or through his culture (He is from Iran).

I only joined this group to post this question, therefore, would you please post your advice to me at the following e-mail address: eyedoc@tcac.com . Thanks!
 

From: Juwariyaa Khan <juwariya_k19@yahoo.com>
Date: Sun Mar 24, 2002 8:00am
Subject: Re: [Truths] Any advice?

question is more about human courtesy thn religion. so express your condolence fomr the heart in whatever u think is nice and humanly nad pray for hte suol of the dead to rest in peace
 

From: "Sahar Hassan" <saharzz@hotmail.com>
Date: Sun Mar 24, 2002 6:11am
Subject: Re: [Truths] Any advice?

giving your condolence depends on no religion....we r humans first....and being sorry on anybody's death is a feeling from inside heart... just go to him and i m sure words will come into your mouth n hell get to know that u can share his pain .... may ALLAH rest the soul of the child in peace..and your friend be able to handle the situation with patience.
 

From: Farrokh Ahmed <dn.farrokh@emirates.com>
Date: Sun Mar 24, 2002 9:52am
Subject: RE: [Truths] Any advice?

Partner
Only condolence will be Ok with sampathy that all

Farrokh Saeed Ahmed
 

From: "Muhammad Umar Chand" <chand786@xtra.co.nz>
Date: Mon Mar 25, 2002 4:44am
Subject: Re: [Truths] Any advice? [offering condolences]

Brother, thank you for the question.
It will be appropriate to say to this gentleman that you are sorry to hear about the death of his beloved one. And add that as we all believe [meaning Muslims as well as non-Muslims] that death is a reality of life. Life is given by God as a gift and when He wants He takes it away. We have to have patience, and we can pray that Allah (Subahanahoo wa ta'aala, Glorified is He) give you better children instead of the one He has taken from you. And we pray that Allah gives you patience to bear this loss.
The following words of Quran we usually quote:
Inna lillah wa inna ilaihi raaji'oon
(We are from God and to Him we return)
And we would shake hands with him [or hold him in embrace-- if occasion or situation allows].
Thank you Brother again for the question.

With regards,
Muhammad Umar Chand
 

From: "Saadia Aziz" <saadiaaa@hotmail.com>
Date: Sun Mar 24, 2002 10:44am
Subject: Re: [Truths] Any advice?

well i think that its okay fro u to just give ur condolances. i mean islam doesnt require u to go trhough a specific process for giving condolences, just stay by him and help ur friend through the tradgey. thats what i would do. hope it helps.
 

From: iman <iman2000_us@yahoo.com>
Date: Sun Mar 24, 2002 9:27pm
Subject: Re: [Truths] Any advice?

Salaam Alaikum,

It's very nice of you to inquire about this issue. I would just express my condolences as you would to anyone else and just tell him that may Allah forgive him and grant him paradise.

Take care,

Iman
 

From: Nusrat Hussain <nusrathussain911@yahoo.com>
Date: Mon Mar 25, 2002 6:32pm
Subject: Re: [Truths] Any advice?

Tell him that every soul comes from Allah and to Allah we all will return. Pray for him that God may give him patience to bear this precious loss. He will remember your words of sympathy and may the ALLMIGHTY give you reward for your sincere concern of a friend.
nusrat
 

From: "Theresa Miller" <sweetsugar_21520@hotmail.com>
Date: Tue Mar 26, 2002 2:32am
Subject: Re: [Truths] Any advice?

Hi, well my only advice is that-you have to be honest, There really isn't much you can say. I mean he lost somebody close to him-and that hurts. Words won't make it any better. Tell him that you are there for him, and the right words will come. No pain last forever