Women
- Going to Masjid
- Hadith - Bukhari 1:824, Narrated Ibn 'Umar
...The
Prophet
said, "If your women ask
permission to go to the mosque at night, allow them."
- Hadith - Bukhari 1:832, Narrated Salim bin
Abdullah
...My
father said, "The Prophet
said, 'If the wife of any one of you asks permission
(to go to the mosque) do not forbid her."
- Act of Penitence
- Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi 4935, Narrated
Abdullah ibn Umar
...A
man came to the Prophet
and said, "Messenger of Allah, I have committed a serious sin. Can I do any
act of penitence?" He asked him if he had a mother, and when he replied that
he had not, he asked if he had a maternal aunt. On his replying that he had,
he said, "Then do kindness to her."[Transmitted
by Tirmidhi]
- Rights
- From the Prophet's Last Sermon...O
People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women,
but they also have right over you. If they abide by your right then to them
belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women
well and be kind to them for they are your partners and comitted helpers.
And it is your right that they do not make friends with any one of whom you
do not approve, as well as never to commit adultery.
Salah
- Garment hanging past ankle
Hadith - Bukhari
"If one's garmet covers below his ankle, that part of
the ankle will be in Hell."
Please note that you are not allowed to fold your clothes during salat,
i.e. you cannot fold up the hem on your pants to raise them above the ankle.
The american suit and typical outfit employs clothes that cover the ankle. The
Muslim must not wear such clothes. Those who fear Allah, subhana watala, obey
Allah's commands.
Hadith - Bukhari 1:799, Narrated Um
Salama
Whenever Allah's Apostle
finished his prayers with Taslim, the women would get up
and he would stay on for a while in his place before getting up. Ibn Shihab
said, "I think (and Allah knows better), that the purpose of his stay was that
the women might leave before the men who had finished their prayer. "
Hadith - Bukhari 1:825, Narrated Um Salama
(the wife of the Prophet
)
In the lifetime of Allah's Apostle
the women used to get up when they finished their
compulsory prayers with Taslim. The Prophet
and the men would stay on at their places as long as
Allah will. When the Prophet got up, the men would then get up.
Household Chores?
Hadith - Mishkat, Narrated Aisha
[Transmitted by Tirmidhi]
Allah's Messenger
used to patch his sandals, sew his garment and conduct himself at home as anyone
of you does in his house. He was a human being, searching his garment for lice,
milking his sheep, and doing his own chores.
Hadith - Sahih al-Bukhari 8.65, Narrated Al
Aswad
I asked 'Aisha what did the Prophet
use to do at home. She replied, "He used to keep himself
busy serving his family and when it was time for the prayer, he would get up for
prayer."
Hadith - Bukhari's Book of Manners # 551
Salih reported that his grandmother said, "I
saw Ali buy some dates for a dirham and then carry them in the folds of his
wrap. Someone asked him, 'Shall I carry those for you, O Commander of the
Faithful?" 'Ali replied, 'No. The father of the family is the one most deserving
of the burden.' "
Lower your gaze when a non-mahram
woman is near
- Do not touch a woman who
is not your wife or close relative; if, out of dire necessity, you must touch
her, perform wudu afterwards.
- Get married if you are
financially able. And if you are presently not financially able, strive to
become financially able.
- Contribute to the daily
chores and do not label such chores as "women's work" only.
- If unable to have lawful
sexual intercourse, utilize fasting.
- Do not fast too much when
your wife is available for relations. Under no circumstances should you fast
more than Prophet David
who did so every other day.
- Say
Bismillah. Allahumma jannibnash shaitaana, wa jannibish shaitaana ma
razaqtana before having
sex with your wife
- Hem your pant legs to
meet the top of your ankle and not cover the ankle.
- Be kind and tolerant of
your wife, but do not sacrifice that for the need for her obedience (to Qur'an
and Sunnah), such as the need for her to guard her chastity. For instance,
tolerate the things you don't understand in her, and show her kindness, but
not at the expense of allowing her or yourself to abandon adherence to Qur'an
and Sunnah; i.e. it is not an "act of kindness" to encourage or allow your
wife to abandon hijab. But do be kind in your dealings with her.
- Protect your wife from
harm, and do not neglect her needs.