Single Men
Hadith - Muslim, #3233
'Abdullah (b. Mas'ud)
reported that Allah's Messenger
said to us: O young men,
those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes
(from casting evil glances) and preserves one from immorality; but he who
cannot afford it should observe fast, for it is a means of controlling the
sexual desire.
The Noble Qur'an - An-Nur 24:33
And let those who find not the financial
means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His
Bounty. ...
Hadith - Bukhari 3:129, Narrated 'Alqama
While I was walking with 'Abdullah
he said, "We were in the company of the Prophet
and he said, 'He who can afford
to marry should marry, because it will help him refrain from looking at other
women, and save his private parts from committing illegal sexual relation; and
he who cannot afford to marry is advised to fast, as fasting will diminish his
sexual power.' "
Hadith - Bukhari 7:1, Narrated Anas bin Malik
A group of three men came to the houses of the wives
of the Prophet asking how the Prophet
worshipped (Allah), and when they were informed about that, they considered
their worship insufficient and said, "Where are we from the Prophet as his
past and future sins have been forgiven." Then one of them said, "I will offer
the prayer throughout the night forever." The other said, "I will fast
throughout the year and will not break my fast." The third said, "I will keep
away from the women and will not marry forever." Allah's Apostle
came to them and said, "Are you
the same people who said so-and-so? By Allah, I am more submissive to Allah
and more afraid of Him than you; yet I fast and break my fast, I do sleep and
I also marry women. So he who does not follow my tradition in religion, is not
from me (not one of my followers)."
Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi #3124, narrated AbuUmamah
The Prophet
said, "If any Muslim happens to
look at a woman's beauties and then lowers his eyes, Allah will produce for
him an act of worship whose sweetness he will experience."
[Ahmad transmitted it.]
Hadith - Muslim #5372, narrated Jarir ibn
Abdullah
I asked Allah's Messenger
about the sudden glance (that is cast) on the face (of
a non-Mahram).
He commanded me that I should turn away my eyes.
Hadith - Bukhari 7.73, narrated Ibn Umar
The Prophet
decreed that one should not try to cancel a bargain already agreed upon
between some other persons (by offering a bigger price). And a man should not
ask for the hand of a girl who is already engaged to his Muslim brother,
unless the first suitor gives her up, or allows him to ask for her hand.
Hadith - Bukhari 7.56, narrated Zainab bint
Salama
...Ibn 'Abbas said, " 'Hint your intention of
marrying' is made by saying (to the widow) for example: 'I want to marry, and
I wish that Allah will make a righteous lady available for me.' " Al-Qasim
said: -One may say to the widow: 'I hold all respect for you, and I am
interested in you; Allah will bring you much good, or something similar.' "
'Ata said: "One should hint his intention, and should not declare it openly.
One may say: 'I have some need. Have good tidings. Praise be to Allah; you are
fit to remarry.' She (the widow) may say in reply: 'I am listening to what you
say,' but she should not make a promise. Her guardian should not make a
promise (to somebody to get her married to him) without her knowledge. But if,
while still in the Iddat period, she makes a promise to marry somebody, and he
ultimately marries her, they are not to be separated by divorce (i.e., the
marriage is valid)."
Masculinity
Hadith - Bukhari 7:773, Narrated Ibn 'Abbas
Allah's Apostle
cursed those men who are in the similitude (assume the manners) of women and
those women who are in the similitude (assume the manners) of men.
Marriage
Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi # 3096, Narrated Anas ibn
Malik
[Bayhaqi transmitted it in Shu'ab al-Iman]
Allah's Messenger
said, "When a man marries he has
fulfilled half of the religion; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining
half."
Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi 3206, narrated Amir ibn
Rabi'ah
A woman of the Banu Fazarah was married for a dower
of two sandals. When Allah's Messenger
asked whether she was satisfied with two sandals
regarding her person and her property and she replied that she was, he gave
his approval.
[Tirmidhi transmitted it.]
The Noble Qur'an - Ar-Rum 30:21
And from among His Signs is this, that He created
for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He
has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for
a people who reflect.
The Noble Qur'an - Al-A'raf 7:189
It is He Who has created you from a single person
(Adam), and (then) He has created from him his wife (Eve), in order that he
might enjoy the pleasure of living with her. ...
The Noble Qur'an - Al-Baqarah 2:221
And do not marry Al-Mushrikat (idolatresses etc.)
till they believe (worship Allah Alone). And indeed a slave woman who
believes is better than a (free) Mushrikah (idolatress etc.), even though she
pleases you. And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikun till
they believe (in Allah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a
(free Mushrik (idolater etc.), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikun)
invite you to the Fire, but Allah invites (you) to Paradise and Forgiveness by
His Leave, and makes His Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs,
revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember.
Hadith - Muwatta 28.1
Yahya related to me from Malik from Muhammad ibn
Yahya ibn Habban from al-Araj from Abu Hurayra
that the Messenger of Allah
said, "Do not ask for a woman in
marriage when another Muslim has already done so."
Hadith - Bukhari 7:127
Allah's Apostle
said, "O 'Abdullah! Have I not been formed that you fast
all the day and stand in prayer all night?" I said, "Yes, O Allah's
Apostle!" He
said, "Do not do that! Observe the fast sometimes and
also leave them (the fast) at other times; stand up for the prayer at night
and also sleep at night. Your body has a right over you, your eyes have a
right over you and your wife has a right over you."
Hadith - Bukhari 8:68 (Volume 8, Book
73, Number 68), Narrated 'Abdullah bin Zam'a
The Prophet
forbade laughing at a person who passes wind, and said,
"How does anyone of you beat his wife as he beats the
stallion camel and then he may embrace (sleep with) her?"
Hadith - Muslim, Narrated Abdullah ibn Umar
Zadhan AbuUmar said: I came to Ibn Umar as he had
granted freedom to a slave. He (the narrator further) said: He took hold of a
wood or something like it from the earth and said: It (freedom of a slave) has
not the reward even equal to it, but the fact that I heard Allah's Messenger
say: He who slaps his slave or beats him, the expiation
for it is that he should set him free.
Hadith - Muslim, Narrated AbuMas'ud al-Ansari
I was beating my slave with a whip when I heard a
voice behind me: Understand, AbuMas'ud; but I did
not recognise the voice due to intense anger. He (AbuMas'ud) reported: As he
came near me (I found) that he was the Messenger of Allah
and he was saying: Bear in mind, AbuMas'ud, bear in
mind, AbuMas'ud. He (AbuMas'ud) said: I threw the whip from my hand.
Thereupon he (the Prophet
)
said: Bear in mind, AbuMas'ud; verily Allah has more
dominance upon you than you have upon your slave.
I (then) said: I would never beat my servant in the
future.
Hadith - Tirmidhi, Narrated Amr ibn al-Ahwas al-Jushami
I said: Apostle of Allah, how should we approach our
wives and how should we leave them? He
replied:
Approach your tilth when or how you will*, give her (your wife) food when you
take food, clothe when you clothe yourself, do not revile her face, and do not
beat her.
*meaning, you may have vaginal intercourse from any position.
Hadith - Dawud, Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin
Habibah daughter of Sahl was the wife of Thabit ibn
Qays Shimmas. He beat her and broke some of her part. So she came to the
Prophet
after morning, and complained to him against her
husband. The Prophet
called on Thabit ibn Qays and said (to him): Take a part
of her property and separate yourself from her. He asked: Is that
right, Apostle of Allah? He said: Yes. He said: I
have given her two gardens of mine as a dower, and they are already in her
possession. The Prophet
said: Take them and separate yourself from her.
Discussing Sexual
Relations
Hadith - Muslim, #3369
Abu Sa'id al-Khudri
reported that Allah's Messenger
said: The most wicked
among the people in the eye of Allah on the Day of Judgment is the man who
goes to his wife and she comes to him, and then he divulges her secret.
Sexual Relations
with one's Wife
The Noble Qur'an Al-Baqara 222-223
They ask you concerning menstruation. Say:
that is an Adha (a harmful thing for a husband to have a sexual
intercourse with his wife while she is having her menses), therefore keep away
from women during menses and go not unto them till they have purified (from
menses and have taken a bath). And when they have purified themselves, then go
in unto them as Allâh has ordained for you (go in unto them in any manner as
long as it is in their vagina). Truly, Allâh loves those who turn unto Him in
repentance and loves those who purify themselves (by taking a bath and
cleaning and washing thoroughly their private parts, bodies, for their
prayers, etc.).
Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your
tilth (have sexual relations with your wives in any manner as long as it is in
the vagina and not in the anus), when or how you will, and send (good deeds,
or ask Allâh to bestow upon you pious offspring) before you for your ownselves.
And fear Allâh, and know that you are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give
good tidings to the believers (O Muhammad
).
Hadith - Bukhari 4:493, Narrated Ibn 'Abbas
The Prophet
said, "If anyone of you, when having sexual relation
with his wife, say: 'In the name of Allah. O Allah! Protect us from Satan and
prevent Satan from approaching our offspring you are going to give us*,' and
if he begets a child (as a result of that relation) Satan will not harm it."
*The husband should learn to say this in Arabic and speak it outloud before
engaging in sexual relations. Here is the english transliteration (of how to
say it in Arabic):
Bismillah. Allahumma jannibnash shaitaana, wa jannibish
shaitaana ma razaqtana.
Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi #3191,
narrated Abdullah ibn Abbas
Allah's Messenger
received the revelation, "Your wives are a tilth to you, so come to your tilth.....",
that means from in front or behind, but avoid the anus and intercourse during
menstruation.
[Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah
transmitted it.]
Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi #3197, narrated Umar ibn al-Khattab
Allah's Messenger
forbade withdrawing the penis from a free woman unless she gives permission.
[Ibn Majah transmitted it.]
Saying of a Salaf
Ibn Qudaamah al-Hanbali (may
Allaah have mercy on him) said: “Intercourse is a duty on the man – i.e., the
husband should have intercourse with his wife – so long as he has no excuse.
This is also the opinion of Maalik.” (al-Mughni, 7/30)
Sexual Relations with Another Man's
Wife
Hadith - Bukhari 6:284, Narrated
'Abdullah
I asked the Prophet
,
"What is the greatest sin in the Sight of Allah?" He
said, "That you set up a rival unto Allah though He
Alone created you." I said, "That is indeed a great sin." Then asked,
"What is next?" He
said, "*To kill your son lest he should share your food
with you." I asked, "What is next?" He said, "To
commit illegal sexual intercourse with the wife of your neighbor." Then
the following Verse was revealed to confirm the statement of Allah's Apostle
:
"Those who invoke not with Allah, any other god, nor kill life as Allah has
forbidden except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse."
(25.68)
*Note: Abortion falls into category, i.e. killing a child
because of the cost of feeding him or her.
When a Husband is
attracted to a woman not his wife
Hadith - Muslim, #3242
Jabir heard Allah's Apostle
say: When
a woman fascinates any one of you and she captivates his heart, he should go
to his wife and have an intercourse with her, for it would repel what he
feels.
The Noble Qur'an - An-Nur 24:30-31
Tell the believing men to lower their gaze
(from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from
illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is
All-Aware of what they do.