Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem
In the Name of Allaah, The Most Gracious, The Most Kind
Abu Hurairah (RAA) reported that the messenger of Allah (SAW) said what translated means:
" A person is not strong by knocking down (his rival). The strong person is he who controls himself when he is angry. "Al-Bukhari
The most creative power given to the human spirit is the power to heal the wounds of a past it cannot change.We do our forgiving alone inside our hearts and minds; what happens to the people we forgive depends on them. The first person to benefit from forgiving is the one who does it.
Forgiving happens in three stages:
we rediscover the humanity of the person who wronged us;
we surrender our right to get even; and
we wish that person well.
Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey.Waiting for someone to repent before we forgive is to surrender our future to the person who wronged us. Forgiving is not a way to avoid pain but to heal the pain.Forgiving someone who breaks a trust does not mean that we give him his job back.Forgiving is the only way to be fair to ourselves.Forgivers are not doormats; to forgive a person is not a signal that we are willing to put up with what he does.Forgiving is essential; talking about it is optional.When we forgive, we set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner we set free is us.When we forgive we walk in stride with the forgiving God.