RELATIONSHIP WITH PARENTS

1.Never be disrespectful to parents. Do not say harsh words on them.

2.Even if parents are unjust, it is not lawful for children to  ill-treat, disobey or displease them.

3.Obey them I all lawful things .If they instruct you to do anything which is lawful in shariah, then politely and with respect and apology decline. Never refuse rudely nor argue with them.

4.When parents abuse, or scold or even beat their children, they should submit to such treatment with humility. Never should they utter a word of disrespect or complaint, nor should they display on their  faces any indication of disgust or anger. Bear their treatment is silence and with patience. Make dua for them

5.Assist them in lawful ways even  if they happened to be non-Muslim.

6.whenever you see them, greet them.

7.if you are living with them  take their permission  before going anywhere. Inform them of you whereabouts.

8.if you are engaged in nafil salaat and your parents call you, break your salaat and answer their call even if there is no urgency or importance  in their call. if you are performing fardh salaat and you detect urgency in their call, then break even the fardh salaat to answer their call.

9. Do not call them by their names. Address them with a title of respect and honour.

10. After their death, make due-e-maghfirat for them. Pray for their forgiveness and within your means, practise virtuous deeds with the intention of the thawaab thereof being bestowed on them by Allah Ta'ala.

11. Pay the debts of your parents.

12. If they had made any lawful wasiyyat (bequest), fulfil it is you are by the means to do so.

13. Be kind, respectful and helpful to the friends of your parents.

14. When entering the private room of parents, seek their permission before entering.

15. Always be cheerful in their presence.

16. Speak kindly and tenderly to them.

17. When speaking to your parents, keep your gaze low. Do not stare then in the face.

18. Do not raise your voice above the voices of your parents.

19. Be humble to your parents.

20. when accompanying parents walk, do not walk in front of them or on the right or left side. Walk slightly behind them.

21. even in their absence speak highly and respectfully of them.

22. Do not give preference to the wife over them (this does not apply to the rights of the wife. Where parents instruct their son to violate or discard the obligatory rights of his wife, it will not be permissible to obey them in this case - Translators note).

23. Always endeavour to keep them happy.

24. Do not embark on a journey without their permission.

25. When they question you, do not inconvenience them by delaying your reply.

26. It is highly disrespectful to refrain from answering them.

27. If at any time you were disrespectful to your parents, regret your actions and hasten to obtain their pardon.

May Allah Ta'ala give us all the ability to respect our parents ( Aameen ).