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Praise be
to Allaah.
Peace of mind, contentment, happiness and freedom from worries
and anxiety. These things are what everyone wants, and these are
the ways in which people can have a good life and find complete
happiness and joy. There are religious means of achieving that,
and natural and practical means, but no one can combine all of
them except the believers; although other people may achieve some
of them, they will miss out on others.
Here follows a summary of the means of achieving this aim for
which everyone is striving. In some cases, those who achieve many
of them will live a joyful life and a good life; in other cases,
those who fail to achieve all of them will live a life of misery
and hardship. And there are others which are in between,
according to what the means he is able to attain. These means
include the following:
1 – Faith and righteous
deeds:
This is the greatest and most fundamental of means. Allah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
“Whoever works righteousness — whether male or female — while he
(or she) is a true believer (of Islamic Monotheism) verily, to
him We will give a good life (in this world with respect,
contentment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them
certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to
do (i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter)”
[al-Nahl 16:97]
Allah tells us and promises us that whoever combines faith with
righteous deeds will have a good life and a good reward in this
world and in the Hereafter.
The reason for that is clear: those who believe in Allah – with
sincere faith that motivates them to do righteous deeds that
change hearts and attitudes and guides them to the straight path
in this world and the Hereafter – follow principles and
guidelines by means of which they deal with everything that
happens to them, be it the causes of happiness and excitement or
the causes of anxiety, worry and grief.
They deal with the things that they like by accepting them and
giving thanks for them, and using them in good ways. When they
deal with them in this manner, that creates in them a sense of
excitement and the hope that it will continue and that they will
be rewarded for their gratitude, which is more important than the
good things that happen to them. And they deal with bad things,
worries and distress by resisting those that they can resist,
alleviating those that they can alleviate, and bearing with
goodly patience those that they cannot avoid. Thus as a result of
the bad things they gain a lot of benefits, experience, strength,
patience and hope of reward, which are more important and which
diminish the hardships they have undergone and replace them with
happiness and hope for the bounty and reward of Allah.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) expressed
this in a saheeh hadeeth in which he said: “How wonderful is the
situation of the believer, for all his affairs are good. If
something good happens to him, he gives thanks for it and that is
good for him; if something bad happens to him, he bears it with
patience, and that is good for him. This does not apply to anyone
but the believer.” (Narrated by Muslim, no. 2999).
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) told us
that the believer is always gaining and the reward for his deeds
is always multiplying, no matter what happens to him, good or
bad.
2 – Being kind to people in word and deed,
and all kinds of doing good.
This is one of the means of removing worry, distress and anxiety.
By this means Allah wards off worries and distress from righteous
and immoral alike, but the believer has the greater share of
that, and is distinguished by the fact that his kindness to
others stems from sincerity and the hope of reward, so Allah
makes it easy for him to be kind to others because of the hope
that this will bring good things and ward off bad things, by
means of his sincerity and hope of reward.
Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“There is no good in most of their secret talks save (in) him who
orders Sadaqah (charity in Allaah’s Cause), or Ma‘roof (Islamic
Monotheism and all the good and righteous deeds which Allaah has
ordained), or conciliation between mankind; and he who does this,
seeking the good Pleasure of Allaah, We shall give him a great
reward”
[al-Nisa’ 4:114]
Part of that great reward is relief from worry, distress,
troubles, etc.
3 – Another of the means of warding off
anxiety that stems from nervous tension and being preoccupied
with disturbing thoughts is to occupy oneself with good deeds or
seeking beneficial knowledge, for that will distract one from
dwelling on the matters that are causing anxiety. In this way a
person may forget about the things that are making him worried
and distressed, and he may become happy and more energetic. This
is another means that believers and others have in common, but
the believer is distinguished by his faith, sincerity and hope of
reward when he occupies himself with that knowledge which he is
learning or teaching, or with the good deeds that he is doing.
The work with which he occupies himself should be something that
he likes and enjoys, for that is more likely to produce the
desired results. And Allaah knows best.
4 – Another thing that may ward off worry
and anxiety is focusing all one’s thoughts of the present day,
and not worrying about the future or grieving about the past.
Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)
sought refuge with Allah from worry and regret, from regret for
things in the past which one cannot put right or change, and
worry which may come because of fear for the future. So one
should focus only on the present day, and focus one's efforts on
getting things right today. For if a person is focused on that,
this means that he will do things properly and forget about worry
and regret. When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him) said a du’a or taught a du’a to his Ummah (community),
as well as urging them to seek the help of Allah and hope for His
bounty, he was also urging them to strive to attain the thing
they were praying for through their own efforts and to forget
about the thing which they were praying would be warded off from
them. Because du’a (supplication) must be accompanied by action.
So a person must strive to attain that which will benefit him in
worldly and spiritual terms, and ask his Lord to make his efforts
successful, and he should seek His help in that, as the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Strive for that
which will benefit you and seek the help of Allaah, and do not be
helpless. If anything (bad) happens to you, do not say, ‘If only
I had done such-and-such, then such-and-such would have
happened.’ Rather you should say, ‘Qaddara Allaah wa ma sha’a
fa’ala (Allah decrees, and what He wills He does),’ for (the
words) ‘If only’ open the door to the Shaytaan.” (Narrated by
Muslim).
The Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) connected the matter of striving to achieve
good things with the matter of seeking the help of Allah and not
giving in to feelings of helplessness which are a harmful kind of
laziness, and with the matter of accepting things in the past
which are over and done with, and acknowledging that the will and
decree of Allah will inevitably come to pass. He described
matters as being of two types:
1 – Matters which a person may strive to achieve or to achieve
whatever he can of them, or to ward them off or alleviate them.
In such cases a person must strive and make the effort, and also
seek the help of Allah.
2 – Matters where such is not possible, so he must have peace of
mind, accept them and submit to Allah’s will.
Undoubtedly paying attention to this principle will bring
happiness and relieve worry and distress.
5 – One of the greatest means of
feeling content and relaxed and of acquiring peace of mind is to
remember Allah a great deal (dhikr). That has a great effect in
bringing contentment and peace of mind, and relieving worry and
distress. Allah says:
“Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest”
[al-Ra’d 13:28]
Remembering Allah (dhikr) has a great effect in achieving this
aim because it has a special influence and because of the hope
that it brings of reward.
6 – Another of the means of bringing
happiness and relieving worry and distress is striving to
eliminate the things that cause worry and to achieve the things
that bring happiness. That may be done by forgetting about bad
things in the past which cannot be changed, and realizing that
dwelling on them is a waste of time. So a person must strive to
stop himself from thinking of that, and also strive to stop
himself from feeling anxious about the future and the things that
he may imagine of poverty, fear and other bad things that he
thinks may happen to him in the future. He should realize that
the future is something unknown; he cannot know what good or bad
things are going to happen to him. That is in the hand of the
Almighty, the Most Wise, and all that His slaves can do is to
strive to attain the good things and to ward off the bad things.
A person should realize that if he diverts his thoughts from
worrying about his future and puts his trust in his Lord to take
care of his situation, and puts his mind at rest concerning that,
if he does that, then his heart will be at peace and his
situation will improve and he will be relieved of worry and
anxiety.
One of the most effective ways of dealing with worries about the
future is to recite this du’a which the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) used to recite:
“Allaahumma aslih li deeni alladhi huwa ‘ismatu amri, wa aslih li
dunyaaya allati fiha ma’aashi, wa aslih li aakhirati allati
ilayha ma’aadi, waj’al al-hayaata ziyaadatan li fi kulli khayr,
wa’l-mawta raahatan li min kulli sharr (O Allaah, correct my
religious commitment which is the foundation of my life, and
correct my worldly affairs in which is my livelihood, and grant
me good in the Hereafter to which is my return. Make my life a
means of accumulating good, and make death a respite for me from
all evil).” (Narrated by Muslim, 2720).
And he said, “Allaahumma rahmataka arju fa la takilni ila nafsi
tarfata ‘aynin wa aslih li sha’ni kullahu, laa ilaaha illa anta
(O Allaah, for Your mercy I hope, so do not abandon me to myself
even for a moment. And correct all my affairs. There is no god
but You).” (Narrated by Abu Dawood with a saheeh isnaad, no.
5090; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Kalim al-Tayyib,
p. 49).
If a person utters these du’as, which ask that his spiritual and
worldly affairs may be set right or corrected, with proper
presence of mind and sincerity of intention, whilst striving to
achieve that, Allah will grant him what he has prayed for, hoped
for and striven for, and He will turn his worry into joy and
happiness.
7 – If a person experiences anxiety and
distress because of a disaster, then one of the most effective
means of relieving himself of that is to think of the worst
scenario to which that may lead, and try to accept that. When he
has done that, then he should try to alleviate it as much as
possible. By means of this acceptance and these efforts, he will
relieve himself of his worries and distress, and instead of
worrying he will strive to bring about good things and to deal
with whatever he can of the bad things. If he is faced with
things that cause fear or the possibility of sickness or poverty,
then he should deal with that by striving to make himself accept
that, or something even worse, with contentment, because by
making himself accept the worst-case scenario, he lessens the
impact of the thing and makes it seem less terrible, especially
if he occupies himself with efforts to ward it off as much as he
can. Thus as well as striving to achieve something good which
will distract him from his worries about calamity, he will also
renew his strength to resist bad things, and put his trust and
reliance in Allah. Undoubtedly these matters are of great benefit
in attaining happiness and peace of mind, as well as bringing the
hope of reward in this world and in the Hereafter. This is
something which is well known from the experience of many who
have tried it.
8 – Steadfastness of heart and not being disturbed about the
imaginary things that bad thoughts may bring to mind. For when a
person gives in to his imagination and lets his mind be disturbed
by these thoughts, such as fear of disease and the like, or anger
and confusion stirred up by some grievous matter, or the
expectation of bad things and the loss of good things, that will
fill him with worries, distress, mental and physical illness and
nervous breakdowns, which will have a bad effect on him and which
causes a great deal of harm, as many people have seen. But when a
person depends on Allah and puts his trust in Him, and does not
give in to his imagination or let bad thoughts overwhelm him, and
he relies on Allah and has hope of His bounty, that wards off his
worries and distress, and relieves him of a great deal of mental
and physical sickness. It gives indescribable strength, comfort
and happiness to the heart. How many hospitals are filled with
the mentally sick victims of illusions and harmful imagination;
how often have these things had an effect upon the hearts of many
strong people, let alone the weak ones; how often have they led
to foolishness and insanity.
It should be noted that your life will follow your train of
thought. If your thoughts are of things that will bring you
benefit in your spiritual or worldly affairs, then your life will
be good and happy. Otherwise it will be the opposite.
The person who is safe from all of that is the one who is
protected by Allah and helped by Him to strive to achieve that
which will benefit and strengthen the heart and ward off anxiety.
Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And whosoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him”
[al-Talaaq 65:3]
i.e., He will be sufficient for all that is worrying him in his
spiritual and worldly affairs. The one who puts his trust in
Allah will have strength in his heart and will not be affected by
anything he imagines or be disturbed by events, because he knows
that these are the result of vulnerable human nature and of
weakness and fear that have no basis. He also knows that Allah
has guaranteed complete sufficiency to those who put their trust
in Him. So he trusts in Allah and finds peace of mind in His
promise, and thus his worry and anxiety are dispelled; hardship
is turned to ease, sadness is turned to joy, fear is turned to
peace. We ask Allah to keep us safe and sound, and to bless us
with strength and steadfastness of heart, and complete trust, for
Allah has guaranteed all good things to those who put their trust
in Him, and has guaranteed to ward off all bad and harmful things
from them.
If bad things happen or there is the fear of such, then you
should count the many blessings that you are still enjoying, both
spiritual and worldly, and compare them with the bad things that
have happened, for when you compare them you will see the many
blessings that you are enjoying, and this will make the bad
things appear less serious.
See al-Wasaa’il al-Mufeedah li’l-Hayaat al-Sa’eedah by Shatkh
‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn Sa’di
Ibn al-Qayyim summed fifteen ways through which Allah may dispel
worries and regret. These are as follows:
1- Tawheed al-Ruboobiyyah (belief in the Oneness of Divine
Lordship)
2- Tawheed al-Uloohiyyah (belief in the Oneness of the Divine
nature)
3- Tawheed of knowledge and belief (i.e., Tawheed al-Asma’
wa’l_Sifaat, belief in the Oneness of the Divine names and
attributes)
4- Thinking of Allah as being above doing any injustice to His
slaves, and above punishing anyone for no cause on the part of
the slave that would require such punishment.
5- The person’s acknowledging that he is the one who has done
wrong.
6- Beseeching Allah by means of the things that are most beloved
to Him, which are His names and attributes. Two of His names that
encompass the meanings of all other names and attributes are al-Hayy
(the Ever-Living) and al-Qayyoom (the Eternal).
7- Seeking the help of Allah Alone.
8- Affirming one's hope in Him.
9- Truly putting one’s trust in Him and leaving matters to Him,
acknowledging that one's forelock is in His hand and that He does
as He wills, that His will is forever executed and that He is
just in all that He decrees.
10-Letting one's heart wander in the garden of the Qur’an,
seeking consolation in it from every calamity, seeking healing in
it from all diseases of the heart, so that it will bring comfort
to his grief and healing for his worries and distress.
11-Seeking forgiveness.
12-Repentance.
13-Jihad.
14-Salaah (prayer).
15-Declaring that he has no power and no strength, and leaving
matters to the One in Whose hand they are.
We ask Allah to keep us safe and sound from worries and to
relieve us of distress and anxiety, for He is the All-Hearing,
Ever-Responsive, and He is the Ever-Living, Eternal
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