A friend of
mine opened his wife's underwear drawer and picked up a silk paper wrapped
package:
"This, - he
said - isn't any ordinary package."
He
unwrapped the box and stared at both the silk paper and the
box.
"She got
this the first time we went to New York, 8 or 9 years ago. She has never put
it on. Was saving it for a special occasion.
Well, I guess this is it. He
got near the bed and placed the gift box next to the other clothing he was
taking to the funeral house, his wife had just died. He turned to me and
said:
"Never
save something for a special occasion. Every day in your life is a special
occasion".
I still think those words changed my
life.
Now I read
more and clean less.
I sit on
the porch without worrying about anything.
I spend
more time with my family, and less at work.
I understood that life should
be a source of experience to be lived up to, not survived through. I no longer
keep anything. I use crystal glasses every day. I'll wear new clothes to go to
the supermarket, if I feel like it.
I don't
save my special perfume for special occasions, I use it whenever I want to.
The words "Someday..." and "One Day..." are fading away from my dictionary. If
it's worth seeing, listening or doing, I want to see, listen or do it now. I
don't know what my friend's wife would have done if she knew she wouldn't be
there the next morning, this nobody can tell. I think she might have called
her relatives and closest friends.
She might call old friends to make peace
over past quarrels. I'd like to think she would go out for Chinese, her
favorite food. It's these small things that I would regret not doing, if I
knew my time had come.
I would
regret it, because I would no longer see the friends I would meet, letters...
letters that I wanted to write "One of these days".
I would regret and feel
sad, because I didn't say to my brothers and sons, not times enough at least,
how much I love them.
Now, I try not to delay, postpone or keep anything
that could bring laughter and joy into our lives.
And, on each morning, I
say to myself that this could be a special day.
Each day, each hour, each
minute, is
special.